Family Issues, any advice?

im sorry the family who are family treat you badly. but that didnt hold you back. you went on with life. you have a husband and his family loves you. so you started your own family.and its a good life. as far as your mom call when the step dad is gone. so you dont have to listen to him acting out. sounds like he is controlling . and abusive to your mom. as well as you. you cant help her unless she wants help. so enjoy the life you have. send them a christmas card once a year. if they answer great if not. you did the best you could.